Why do some people neglect their friends when they are in a relationship?
i've asked a few people for their opinions. i'm being neutral here. not siding any gender or referring to anyone in particular ;D
a girl said: "i think that friends stay with you for a long long time but guys ditch you once they see an alternative. or vice-versa." this is unbelievably true. well, some people are not committed to relationship cos they treat it like a game. i've heard of people whom tried to go after the same girl & sees who would the girl fall for. whoa. okay, so back to the question. so what if you have a boyfriend/girlfriend? so what if he/she makes you feel that you're the best among the rest? you still need to set your priorities right. obviously family would come first. you must be able to balance all, family, friends, bgr, etc.
"because to them, friends are the only thing to replace their non-existent love life. so once they've got one, they don't need friends anymore." so, what are friends for again? before you were in a relationship, you treat your friend well. it's like there's a shoulder to cry on. for instance, if your friend feels down, etc. you'd console him/her but after that, 'i'm sorry, i can't talk to you.' & the reason is because 'my bf/gf doesn't like me to talk to people of the opposite gender.' what bullshit. does that mean he/she is controlling you? controlling your life?
a guy said:
"friends can't give them the love that his or her loved ones can give them"
this might be true. you probably need someone to give you affection, to love you. but that doesn't give you the reason to neglect your friends. right? but what if you have known your friend for a very long time? for instance, since your childhood days & when you're a grown up, the thing that separates you from meeting one another is your bf/gf? what would you feel? think again.
Syairah told me this, "they just injects some kind of ecstatic feeling in you. They're like endomorphins(?), they make you happy. Friends cheer you up, yeah. but who you're looking for is someone special. not a friend you know for a long time." it is true that the opposite gender does give you that feeling like you're on top of the world. but friends definitely know you better than your bf/gf. what if you just knew him/her for a few months, the you fall in love, so on & so forth. but a friend is someone you can count on. be it whether you are in a relationship or not. cos you can pour out your feelings to them & no matter what happens, they are willing to listen to you.
"we've been friends forever versus the hot chick I just met not long ago. Who do you trust more. My friends. So I chose to leave them because I think they'll be there forever by my side, not having to worry whether they're beside me or not."
of course, you'd trust your friends more, in this case, best friends. not mutual friends. it's alright to leave your best friends cos they understand you. they know you well enough that they are willing to let go of you & let you be happy with your loved ones.
"Its just the feeling the opposite gender gives to us that the person of the same gender can't give us. simply speaking, we're blinded by love that we dont really exactly know what we're doing." this is similar to what i've mentioned earlier on. affection. everyone needs affection. the feeling to love and cared for. but at times, we are unaware of what we are doing. unaware of the consequences that might occur. easy saying, love is blind.
so guys & girls, do leave your comments at my tagboard if you have any. thanks & goodnght!
